What are some other creative anniversary ideas?

If you’d prefer to select a gift that’s incredibly meaningful to you and your partner, or that offers an experience, you may choose to stray from the theme. “Think of gifts that drive a renewed attention to one another: a set of silver-colored bikes instead of a silver plate; a piece of art, or an immersive art experience; or perhaps a series of cooking classes that will reinvigorate what happens at the dining table every night for the next year,” suggests Perel.

Do I have to follow the traditional and modern gift etiquette for an anniversary?

Don’t be afraid to stray from traditional and modern gift ideas. For some couples, it may be the best choice. “Tradition and etiquette were great when we were only married for 20 years, but when marriage lasts 40, 50, 60 years, what we want is to be surprised. The best thing about tradition and etiquette is the opportunity to break the rules and ‘infuse it with personal meaning,’ as Priya Parker says,” says Perel.

The 14 Best 23rd Anniversary Gifts

If you’re coming up on 23 years of marriage together, it’s certainly something to celebrate. You'll want to find the perfect gift for your partner to commemorate the big day—after 23 years, you've surely come up with many clever gift ideas. The traditional and modern gift for a 23rd anniversary is silver-plated, which can apply to a whole range of household products and accessories. You can certainly follow the theme, choosing a silver-plated gift such as barware, a picture frame, or jewelry, or you might choose to come up with something more out of the box.

Psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel recommends gifts that bring in new energy. “I like generative gifts that bring in novelty but still rest on the stability of the past," she says. "Make sure to also add in something fresh and new for the future.” To help you find something special for your partner, we've researched the best gifts across the web. We looked for items based on the materials, thoughtfulness, price, and overall quality.

Our Top Picks

Mark & Graham Silver and Wood Cheese Board at Markandgraham.com

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Monica Vinader Linear Solo Diamond Pendant Necklace at Nordstrom

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Anthropologie Zaza Lustered Coupe Glasses at Anthropologie

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Morning Joy Co. Custom Recipe Cutting Board at Etsy

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Uncommon Goods Personalized Whiskey Barrel at Uncommon Goods

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Nambé Silver Love Bowl at Amazon $62

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Crate & Barrel Silver Barware Set at Crate & Barrel

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Anthropologie Marble Wine Rack at Anthropologie $48

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Brooklinen Super Plush Towels at Brooklinen

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Williams Sonoma Honeycomb Mugs at Williams-Sonoma

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Mark & Graham Silver and Wood Cheese Board

Mark & Graham Beaded Silver and Walnut Wood Cheese Board

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This is the perfect platter for those who love to host at home. It’s personalized with an engraved monogram and made with Caribbean walnut wood for long-lasting durability. The silver beading around the border dresses up the rustic charm of the natural wood.

Monica Vinader Linear Solo Diamond Pendant Necklace

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You certainly can’t go wrong with a gorgeous piece of jewelry for any occasion. This sterling silver pendant showcases a pavé diamond in the center. It's a stunning piece that goes with everything.

Anthropologie Zaza Lustered Coupe Glasses

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Add a little shimmer to your celebration. These luster coupe glasses are designed with textured glass that beautifully reflects light. They’re just waiting to be used for a celebratory cocktail toast on the evening of your anniversary.

Morning Joy Co. Custom Recipe Cutting Board

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Calling all foodies! Do they have a treasured recipe that's a family favorite? This maker will carve the handwritten recipe onto the surface of a board, making it a one-of-a-kind couples' gift that they'll have (and use!) forever.

Uncommon Goods Personalized Whiskey Barrel

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Are they big fans of whiskey? Now they can age their own. This personalized oak barrel can be used to age whiskey or rum, or even to age a whiskey-based batch cocktail to add more depth to your blend.

Nambé Silver Love Bowl

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Add a new statement piece—with a dose of sweet sentiment—to your home. This softly sculpted alloy bowl is a modern interpretation of the classic heart shape. It’s also useful and is perfect for serving hot or cold dishes.

Crate & Barrel Silver Barware Set

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Revamp the home bar with a set that does it all. Featuring an ice bucket, bottle opener, jigger, stirring spoon, strainer, ice scoop, and muddler, it has everything needed to whip up celebratory cocktails for your anniversary (and beyond!).

Anthropologie Marble Wine Rack

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$48 at Anthropologie $88 at Havenly.com

For the wine lover, this sculptural rack is the perfect option for storing and organizing their prized collection. With room for six bottles, it’s a gorgeous statement piece to put on display to highlight their favorite wines.

Brooklinen Super Plush Towels

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After 23 years together, it may be time to treat each other to some new towels—and why not go for luxury? These super-soft ones make you feel like you’re visiting a spa every morning. Bonus: they come in 12 different colors, so it's easy to find the perfect hue for your bathroom.

Williams Sonoma Honeycomb Mugs

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Show your honey just how much you love them with a new set of mugs for your morning coffee together. These adorable honeycomb mugs are the perfect balance of cozy vibes and elegant design. They're painted with sparkly 18K gold for a gift that feels special.

Uncommon Goods Head-to-Toe Home Spa Gift Set

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You can never go wrong with a gift that promotes relaxation and self-care. They'll appreciate the encouragement to slow down and treat themselves! This at-home spa set includes body scrub, foot salts, a clay facial mask, foot cream, and lotion for ultimate pampering.

Vintage Garden Art Custom Cheese Markers

Vintage Garden Art Stamped Recycled Forks Silver Plate Custom Cheese Markers, Set of 6

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For the partner who’s all about charcuterie and cheese boards, this is the ultimate gift. These cute cheese markers come in a set of six and are hand-stamped with their favorite cheese varieties. For a touch of creative whimsy (and sustainability!), the pieces are crafted from recycled forks.

Sage and Sill Spherical Gooseneck Stainless Steel Watering Can

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When you've been together for a long time, it can be difficult to find new gifts they'll love, but a practical item they'll use again and again can be the best kind of gift. This spherical watering can comes in a silver finish and will look elegant while serving its purpose for years and years. It's durable, scratch- and corrosion-resistant, and has a clean and slightly unexpected design that elevates it from a simple watering can to a beautiful, meaningful gift.

Mark and Graham Silver and Wicker Tray

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If your home bar or patio serving ware needs an update, gift your spouse this elegant serving tray. It's made of silver-plated stainless steel and wicker, and you can even have it monogrammed. It's a lasting piece that they'll look forward to using the next time you entertain.

What to Look for in a 23rd Anniversary Gift

The Traditional and Modern Gift, Silver Plate: The 23rd anniversary gift, both in the traditional and modern sense, is silver plate. That can be interpreted in a variety of ways including silver dinnerware, barware, jewelry, and more. Of course, it's also OK to stray from the theme if it means gifting your spouse something that's truly meaningful to them.

FAQ

What are some other creative anniversary ideas?

If you’d prefer to select a gift that’s incredibly meaningful to you and your partner, or that offers an experience, you may choose to stray from the theme. “Think of gifts that drive a renewed attention to one another: a set of silver-colored bikes instead of a silver plate; a piece of art, or an immersive art experience; or perhaps a series of cooking classes that will reinvigorate what happens at the dining table every night for the next year,” suggests Perel.
Do I have to follow the traditional and modern gift etiquette for an anniversary?

Don’t be afraid to stray from traditional and modern gift ideas. For some couples, it may be the best choice. “Tradition and etiquette were great when we were only married for 20 years, but when marriage lasts 40, 50, 60 years, what we want is to be surprised. The best thing about tradition and etiquette is the opportunity to break the rules and ‘infuse it with personal meaning,’ as Priya Parker says,” says Perel.

Why Trust Brides

Brides contributor Molly Allen is a former small business owner with years of experience in the lifestyle and wedding industries, with a focus on parties, entertaining, food, and beverage. She is dedicated to searching for high-quality, beautiful, and unique products that will bring a smile to any recipient’s face.

Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist, relationship expert, podcast host, and the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity.