Bride Disinvites Former Friend From Wedding Festivities But Still Demands She Pay $500 for Bachelorette Party

Weddings often become a pressure cooker filled with high emotions and demanding responsibilities, which may put a strain on relationships. This happened with one pair of friends, who had a falling out in the lead-up to the bride’s big day, one woman wrote on Reddit’s “Wedding” subreddit. Even though the bride-to-be disinvited her friend from her bachelorette party and her wedding, she still demanded that the woman pay for her fair share of the pre-wedding event.

Describing the interpersonal dynamic in a post on October 16, 2024, the bride’s friend provided some background information, explaining that she and her boyfriend RSVPed to the bride’s wedding in April 2024 before the woman committed to the bachelorette party two months later. Then, in July, the day before the bride sent out her save-the-dates, she called her friend to inform her that her boyfriend is no longer on the guest list at her wedding. For this reason, the Redditor decided not to attend her friend’s nuptials, but she still planned on attending the bachelorette party.

That was until the original poster discovered that the bride and her fiancé had been badmouthing her relationship with her boyfriend—a move that was especially hurtful because she had privately confided in the bride about her boyfriend’s brother passing away last year and how it took a toll on their partnership. “Her and her fiance have been gossiping about me and my relationship to all of our friends,” she revealed. “They have said really hurtful things and essentially smeared my name and now I've lost friends because of their actions.”

After finding out about the backstabbing, the bride’s friend decided to decline the bachelorette party invitation, too. When the bride asked her why she had backed out of the pre-wedding trip, she told her, “It’s because she didn’t support my relationship and talked about me,” per the post. In response, the bride admitted that she doesn’t support her. Then, she removed her from the guest list and proceeded to talk about the former guest behind her back. “The bride and I are not friends anymore and she removed me off social media,” the OP said.

Even though the two had a falling out and the bride kicked her off of the guest list, she’s still expecting the Redditor to pay the $500 fee associated with the bachelorette party—a cost that the bride never discussed with the group. Her former friend, though, refuses to pay the large sum. “If this were under a different circumstance and I couldn't go I would still pay but I don't feel like I owe her anything,” the Redditor noted. “She has truly been a terrible friend to me and I'm not paying for someone I'm not friends with.”

The internet reassured the OP that she has zero responsibility to pay for the bachelorette party. “The bride asked you not to come,” someone pointed out. “That removed ALL obligations you had…including paying.” Some added that the bride's demand was insensible. “Expecting the monetary contribution from you now is greedy and ridiculous,” one person concluded. Others advised the OP to ignore the text from the maid of honor about the payment and to let them handle it. “DO NOT PAY A PENNY,” another encouraged her. “The bride and all the friends you lost through hurtful gossip can sort it out between themselves. Block and move on x.”