150 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

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Fun and Lighthearted Questions Deep and Meaningful Questions Romantic Questions

Conversation Starters Questions for Your Partner's Parents

One of the best ways to get to know someone is to simply ask them a question (or 150 questions!). After all, there’s a reason why you have to fill out a questionnaire on a dating app or sit through tons of queries about your past employment in a job interview. The same principle works with your partner; asking them fun, interesting, and thoughtful questions when you’re first hanging out, grabbing dinner, or planning for the future helps you learn more about them while figuring out how to be the partner they need.

Simply put, asking questions is important if you're genuinely curious about your partner’s life, dreams, and opinions, no matter how long you've been together. Even something as simple as “What was your first job?” can open up a discussion about your past, finances, and goals. That being said, it's also essential to let the conversation flow organically once you've received an answer, as you don't want your partner to feel like you're interviewing them for a role in your life.

Below, we’ve rounded up 150 questions to ask your girlfriend, boyfriend, or partner, no matter if you're newly dating, committed, meeting the parents, or on the road to marriage. Read on for more.

Fun and Lighthearted Questions to Ask Your Partner

If you’re still in the “getting to know each other” stage, these fun yet thoughtful questions will help you find common ground and learn each other’s likes, dislikes, childhood memories, and more.

What was the movie you watched on a loop as a child?
What’s your favorite holiday and why?
Who was your celebrity crush as a teenager?
What’s your favorite road trip snack?
If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s your comfort TV show or movie?
What was the best birthday present you’ve ever gotten?
What’s on your travel bucket list?
If you had your dream job when you were five years old, what would you be doing right now?
What’s the best book you’ve ever read?
What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?

If you found $50 on the street and had to do something fun with it, what would you do?
What was your first job?
What was your first car?
What’s your go-to karaoke song?
What was the first concert you went to?
What was your favorite subject in school?
What is the best trip you’ve ever taken?
What’s your go-to chain restaurant?
What’s your go-to order at a coffee shop or a bar?
Are you Team Sweet or Team Savory?
If you cook, what’s your signature meal or recipe?
If you were cast on a reality show, which one would you choose?

What is a smell you love? What is a smell you hate?
What’s your favorite way to spend a Sunday?
Who was your first crush?
If you had to give a TedTalk about something, what would you choose?
What’s your vibe on vacation: low-key or non-stop action?
What’s your guilty pleasure song or movie?
Do you like to sleep in or wake up early?
What’s your favorite way to exercise?
Did you have a pet as a child?
Do you consider yourself organized or more carefree?
Would you ever go [insert an adventurous activity here]?

Have you ever had major surgery?
If you had one superpower, what would you choose?
Team Dog or Team Cat?
If you were a flower, what would you be?
What’s your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
If you could participate in the Olympics, which sport would you choose?
Who is your favorite Muppet?
Scary movie or rom-com?
What was your favorite Halloween costume?
Did you go to summer camp as a kid?

Deep and Meaningful Questions to Ask Your Partner

More in-depth questions are a great way to spark conversation and learn where you align and where you differ.

Which of your values is most important to you?
How did your childhood impact who you are today?
What’s your relationship with your parents like?
What is your biggest dream in life?
What are your political views?
What is your relationship to technology and social media?
What motivates you to fulfill your dreams and goals?
What is your biggest fear?
Who is the most important person in your life and why?
Which family traditions will you continue to carry on when you have a family?
What do you hope your legacy will be?

When you picture yourself in ten years, what do you see? What about fifty years?
What are you proud of?
What is your relationship to faith, religion, or spirituality?
Who is your role model? Why?
What are three words you’d use to describe yourself?
What advice would you give your younger self?
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned about life so far?
What did you learn from your most recent breakup?
What was the best decision you ever made?
What was the worst decision you ever made?
How can I comfort you when you’re sad or disappointed?

What makes someone a good friend?
When do you feel like the best version of yourself?
Have you ever made a big mistake? How did you fix it?
What are your goals today?
What were your goals five or ten years ago?
When do you feel most like yourself?
Where is your happy place?
How do you unwind after a stressful day?
What stresses you out?
Do you believe in astrology?

Romantic Questions to Ask Your Partner

Turn up the heat with love-related questions about romance, partnership, date nights, and first love.

What makes you feel loved?
How do you show love to a romantic partner?
What’s your love language?
What is something that surprised you about falling in love?
How do you work through disagreements and conflicts with a partner?
When you envision our future, what do you see?
What makes someone a good partner to you?
Who is a couple you admire? Why?
How do you communicate with a partner?
What makes you feel attractive?
How can I best support you when you’re feeling angry or upset?
What does a happy marriage look like to you?

Do you believe in soulmates?
Have you ever been in love before?
How do you describe the feeling of being in love?
What do you love about me?
What do you love about us as a couple?
What is romantic to you?
What is not romantic to you?
What’s your favorite love story?
What’s the most romantic song you’ve ever heard?
How do you like to receive affection?
How do you keep the spark alive in a relationship?
What does sexy mean to you?
What are your biggest turn-ons?

Conversation Starters for You and Your Partner

Even the best conversationalists need a little inspiration on occasion, so keep these thought starters on hand when you need something new to chat about.

What would your perfect day look like?
What is the best thing you’ve ever bought?
What’s something you regret?
Who is someone who made an impact on you when you were a child?
What makes a place feel like home to you?
When you’re feeling low, how do you pick yourself back up?
Have you ever conquered a challenge at work or in your personal life?
How are you different from the person you were five or ten years ago?
Who was the first person you dated?
If we could go on a trip anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you go?

What is a hobby or skill you’d like to learn?
What are you excited about in the future?
What are you worried about for the future?
If you won the lottery, what’s the first frivolous thing you’d buy?
What were you like in high school? Would you be friends with your younger self?
What’s something you admire about me?
If you could live anywhere, where would you live?
Who would play you in a movie about your life and what would happen?
What makes you angry?
What are your pet peeves?
Would you ever go skydiving or something similarly risky? Why or why not?

Do you have any hidden talents?
What is the movie/book/song you loved that everybody else hated? Or vice versa?
What was the best wedding you’ve ever been to?
If you had a food stand at a state fair or amusement park, what would you serve?
Who is your celebrity hall pass?
What is something you truly couldn’t live without?
What’s your most cherished memory?
What is your favorite compliment to give?
What is your favorite compliment to receive?
What do you like about your job?
What do you love about your friends?