How to Plan Your Wedding Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

You probably never thought that when you discovered your Myers-Briggs personality type you’d be putting those findings to work when planning your wedding—but think again. Knowing your personal strengths and weaknesses, as well as how you approach a potentially stressful situation, can be extremely helpful in figuring out what kind of wedding you want and how to bring it to life. If you need a refresher, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is a comprehensive questionnaire that leads you to a four-letter combination of specific personality traits: E(xtrovered) or I(ntroverted) + S(ensing) or iN(tuition) + T(hinking) or F(eeling) + P(erceiving) or J(udging).

“While movies and social media often paint wedding planning as a joyous adventure, the reality can be pretty overwhelming,” says Jennifer Allen, a micro-wedding expert. “With so many moving parts and different personalities involved, certain Myers-Briggs types might find it easier to handle than others.” For example, Allen cites the ESTJ type as “the perfect wedding planner,” since they love managing projects and working with people. “They're like a natural fit for coordinating everything from flowers to seating charts with ease,” she explains. If you’re an INTP, however, you may overthink things or spend too much time in your own head.

“I think that once you find out your type, embrace it. Then, you should each take on tasks that fit your personality best,” Allen further shares. “If you're an introvert who enjoys deep thinking (like an INTP), perhaps you can handle researching and selecting vendors. If you're an extrovert who loves connecting with people (like an ESFJ), maybe you can take charge of communicating with guests and coordinating RSVPs.”

Whether you live by the book of your specific Myers-Briggs type or are just curious about where you fit in, we put together this easy-to-follow guide on how to plan your wedding based on your personality type.

ISTJ

ISTJs love a plan and a system, which makes wedding planning a breeze. “Color-coded spreadsheets are your new best friend,” says Allen. “Stick to the plan, and your wedding will be as organized as your sock drawer.” (Wait, could you even have a career in wedding planning? Maybe!)

“I” types are introspective, which means you probably love going deep into wedding-related research. “Dive deep into the world of wedding blogs, Pinterest, and Instagram for inspiration. But don't forget to come up for air and actually make some decisions,” adds wedding planner Jamie Wolfer. Meaning, if you tend to get stuck in a spiral of overthinking, know when to call in the pros—an “E” type—to help you make a final decision. 

ISFJ

ISFJs are warm, welcoming, and thoughtful—and those nurturing qualities will come through in your wedding planning process. Your main focus should be to keep sight of what’s important: the people in your life, including your partner and your friends and family. “Stay dependable and keep spreading those warm vibes,” advises Allen. “Your wedding day will be a reflection of the love you share.”

INFJ

Put your seemingly endless creativity to good use to plan the most personal, sentimental wedding ceremony. Think family photos, references to your relationship on the dinner tables (like naming them after restaurants or places you've visited together), and little touches of personality throughout the ceremony and party. “Channel that creativity into every detail, and watch your wedding day unfold like a beautifully crafted storybook,” Allen shares.

INTJ

You’re ambitious, driven, and focused on achieving your goals, which means you’re well-suited to create the perfect wedding. That said, don’t stress yourself out fretting over every single detail; put your organizational skills to work to set yourself up for success. “Approach your wedding like a puzzle to solve, and watch as every piece falls into place. Your thoughtfulness will make for an unforgettable day," notes Allen.

It’s also okay to loosen up your grip on the budget or to-do list. “Thinking types approach decisions with logic and objectivity,” explains Wolfer. “You're likely to have a well-researched budget and a clear list of priorities. My tip for you is to not lose sight of the emotional aspect of your wedding. It's not just another project to manage; it's a celebration of love. Allow yourself to make some decisions with your heart.”

ISTP

Practicality is basically your middle name, and that means you’re apt to hone in on the basics and make sure you celebrate what’s really important: your partner and your friends and family. “Keep it simple, keep it efficient. Less time stressing over details means more time enjoying each other's company,” says Allen.

ISFP

ISFPs are all about living in the moment, being flexible, and going with the flow. That’s great for not getting stressed out, but not so great when putting together a plan. “P types who thrive on flexibility, I see you and your aversion to overly detailed plans. Your wedding planning mantra should be ‘keep it simple,’” advises Wolfer. “Focus on what truly matters to you and your partner, and don't get bogged down by the minutiae.” Another tip? Embrace that spontaneous attitude, but maybe consider hiring a wedding planner to keep you on track.

INFP

You want to do the right thing, not just for yourself and your guests but for the world as a whole. If you’re planning a sustainable, more eco-friendly celebration, put your creativity and empathy to work—just make sure to ground those dreams in reality, says Allen. “Your wedding will be a masterpiece painted with love.”

Feeling types are guided by personal values, adds Wolfer. “Your wedding will likely be a reflection of your relationships and the emotional significance of this milestone,” she shares—so don’t lose sight of the fact that this is your special day. “Make sure to set boundaries and stick to what truly matters to everyone involved, especially you and your partner. It's all about balance—honoring your emotions while also making practical decisions that align with your vision and budget.”

INTP

You’ve got a vision, and you’ll do anything to bring it to life. However, sometimes that means you may get in your own way or focus on the little details when you should be looking at the big picture. “Remember to take breaks from your own headspace to enjoy the wedding planning process,” says Allen. “Your unique perspective will add depth and meaning to every decision.”

ESTP

First on the dance floor, last to leave the party—that’s you. Fun is the guiding principle of many ESTP personality types, which is excellent for creating an unforgettable vibe on your wedding day. “Embrace the thrill of wedding planning like the adventure it is,” shares Allen. “Your energy will keep the excitement alive every step of the way.” Simply put, bring your enthusiasm to the task to plan the best party ever.

ESFP

You’re one step ahead of the trend cycle and open to new ways of thinking, which can serve you well when wedding planning. Think outside the box for your venue, vendors, and even your wedding dress or jewelry. Your forward-thinking energy means you’ll create a wedding that is unique and exciting—and maybe start a new trend in the process. “Stay spontaneous, stay connected, and let's make sure your big day is as fun and lively as you are,” says Allen.

“Sensing types love the details and live in the present, so wedding planning is your playground,” says Wolfer. “You're all about the tangible elements that will make your day special. Think lush floral arrangements, the perfect playlist that hits all the right notes, and a menu that'll have your guests talking for years.”

ENFP

“Paint your wedding day with the vibrant colors of your imagination,” Allen shares of the inspiring, artsy ENFP type. “Your creative spirit will make every moment unforgettable.” You don’t just want your wedding to be fun; you want it to be meaningful and special not just for you, but for your guests, too. Your optimism and enthusiasm serve you well when figuring out everything from décor to seating charts to the dance party playlist. No detail is left unnoticed and you embrace each one for the special moment it could be.

“N” types are dreamers, says Wolfer. “You've likely had a vision of your wedding day since you could remember, and it's all about bringing that dream to life.” To avoid getting carried away with all of the possibilities, though, define a theme or a vibe as a foundation for further planning. “From there, find vendors who resonate with your vision and can bring it to life. Just be cautious not to overlook the logistics that will make your dream wedding feasible.”

ENTP

At the end of the day, your wedding is about you and your partner—nobody else. ENTPs aren’t afraid to stand out and do things their way, which means you should lean into what makes your relationship special. If a certain tradition doesn’t feel authentic to you, ditch it! “Stay witty, stay eccentric, and let your curiosity lead the way,” Allen says of an ENTP approach. “Your wedding will be as unique as you are.”

ESTJ

ESTJs are all about having a blast, but they’re also amazing planners. Your motivating energy and zest for life draws people to you, which is especially great when you need friends and family to lend a hand on your big day. “Your wedding planning skills are unmatched!” enthuses Allen. “Lead the charge, rally the troops, and let your love for people shine through.” 

“Your energy is your superpower,” Wolfer adds of “E” personality types. “Use it to network with vendors, rally the troops for DIY projects, and keep the planning momentum going.” Just don’t take on too much and get overwhelmed. “Remember, it's okay to delegate and take a step back to ensure you're not heading towards burnout city.”

ESFJ

ESFJ personalities want everyone else to have a good time, sometimes at the expense of their own feelings. You just love your people so much! Don’t forget to focus on what makes you happy, too. At the end of the day, “your love is the glue that holds everything together,” shares Allen. “Keep spreading that love, and your wedding day will be filled with warmth and joy.”

ENFJ

Go with your gut, ENFJ! You’re guided by your own enthusiasm and idealism, as well as the spirit of those around you. Express yourself and your love on your big day, from a traditional meal that honors your heritage or a wedding gown packed with personal touches. “Your generosity and idealism will create a day filled with love and positivity.”

ENTJ

You’re basically the executive of wedding planning, ENTJ. Lean into that boss energy, as it will serve you well when dealing with last-minute RSVPs, silverware patterns, and setting up a registry. “Take charge of your wedding planning like the bosses you are,” says Allen. “Your orderly approach will ensure a smooth and successful celebration of your love.”

“You're probably already on top of your game, with spreadsheets for your spreadsheets,” Wolfer adds. Get your tasks done, but don’t forget to schedule in some downtime, too. “Wedding planning is a marathon, not a sprint, and even the most detail-oriented folks need to binge some Netflix or have a date night to avoid burnout.”