How to Plan a Wedding Straight Out of a Nancy Meyers Movie

When it comes to romance, no one captures the essence of love quite like Nancy Meyers. From the charming family dynamics in Father of the Bride to the lush aesthetics of It’s Complicated and the cozy, heartwarming scenes in The Holiday, Meyers' films are a masterclass in crafting enchanting narratives. That's why emulating her signature style can help elevate your wedding day with a blend of sophistication and warmth.

“Imagine airy venues, elegant pastel palettes, and a touch of whimsical charm, all designed to craft an unforgettable atmosphere,” says event manager Farizah Willems. “Picture a timeless, romantic, cozy wedding,” adds wedding planner Kelsey Johnson. Best of all? The Nancy Meyers aesthetic can be achieved anywhere—whether you're opting for a backyard celebration or hosting a destination fête—provided you know what elements to incorporate to capture the day's mood.

Here, we asked both experts to help break down how to host a wedding straight out of a Nancy Meyers movie. Read on for all the planning tips you need to know, from venue to décor and fashion recommendations, among other details.

What Is a Nancy Meyers-Inspired Wedding Aesthetic?

A Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding aesthetic is a mix of understated elegance and cottagecore charm since the filmmaker's movies all have a feel-good, welcoming vibe, Johnson explains. "Nancy Meyers is known for movies that bring families together and have that ever-present hint of nostalgia,” Willems adds.

Meaning, this typically isn’t an aesthetic that would invoke over-the-top installations or ultra-dramatic wedding elements. Instead, think of soft lighting, fresh florals, and creating special moments for your VIPs. The day should feel effortlessly sophisticated, dotted with small, personal details that weave together your and your partner's love story. It doesn’t matter if the venue is a tropical getaway or your own cozy backyard, the key is to blend modern elegance with a splash of whimsy. 

How to Plan a Nancy Meyers-Inspired Wedding

Planning a wedding that feels like a scene from a Nancy Meyers movie requires attention to detail and a flair for sophistication. According to Johnson, couples should start by choosing a venue that echoes the timeless elegance seen in Meyers' films, such as a quaint estate or a scenic outdoor space that boasts a mixture of modern and historic elements. As for décor, that should be understated yet chic, with soft lighting and cozy setups that invite guests to relax and enjoy; you should incorporate personal touches that tell your unique love story, and consider working with a seasoned wedding planner to bring all the elements together seamlessly. 

Need more advice? Here’s everything you need to know in order to plan a wedding that's both enchanting and memorable.

Nancy Meyers-Inspired Wedding Venues

Willems explains that one great aspect of the Nancy Meyers aesthetic is that it lends itself to a variety of venues. “From open-air terraces and beachfront ceremonies to gardens and more traditional ballrooms, flexible venue spaces with natural light and room for communal tables post-ceremony for family-style meals are a huge plus,” she highlights. More specifically, here's a list of a few wedding venues to consider when planning your big day.

A Beach-Side Resort

Seaside vows at sunset exude effortless romance, which is why Willems recommends a beach-side resort for a Nancy Meyers-worthy celebration. Imagine having a waterside ceremony before dancing the night away under an open-aired tent with twinkling views of the stars. You can prep for the big day at the spa, then kick off your shoes and toast to you and your partner starting a new chapter together in a tropical paradise.  

An English Cottage Escape

It wouldn’t be a cottagecore celebration without an actual English cottage-inspired venue, right? Luckily, you don’t have to travel across the pond to get this romantic vibe. There are scores of venues across the United States (and the world!) that boast charming gardens, sophisticated suites, luxurious lounge areas, and a homey feel. Consider finding a space with high tea, roaring fireplaces, daily homemade cookies, or a basement pub for the rehearsal dinner or after-party.

An Elegant Ballroom

For a wedding that mirrors the romantic whims of a Nancy Meyers film, think about transforming a classic ballroom into your dreamy escape. The Ritz Carlton or The Edition—both with locations worldwide—are known for their luxury, grace, and astute attention to detail. Plan a night filled with live orchestra music, a dance floor gleaming under soft lights, and tables adorned with exquisite floral arrangements.

A Charming Vineyard

Charming vineyards capture the serene beauty reminiscent of The Parent Trap (minus all the Meredith Blake drama). This idyllic setting, perfect for a Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding, combines rustic elegance with modern comforts. Picture exchanging vows among lush vineyards, followed by a celebration with farm-to-table dining, cozy fire pits, and relaxing spa treatments. Wine country—whether in California, Texas, or abroad—provides a luxurious backdrop, and infusing your personal touches will transform the venue into a space as enchanting as any film setting.

Your Own Backyard

To channel the charm of a Father of the Bride-style celebration, transform your own backyard into the ultimate Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding venue. Hang string lights throughout the trees, place elegant floral arrangements on rustic tables, and create soft, plush seating areas that encourage guests to relax and revel in the atmosphere. Not only does this setting allow for a high level of customization, but it also brings the quintessential Meyers blend of comfort and chic sophistication. There's no better way to celebrate the intimacy and warmth of your love than in a place that feels like home (literally!).

Nancy Meyers-Inspired Fashion and Beauty

When hosting a Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding, consider the filmmaker's hallmark of understated style. “The perfect attire mirrors the relaxed elegance and timeless charm of her films,” explains Willems. (Think effortless sophistication for the bride, focusing on soft makeup and attire.) Willems recommends a flowing silk or chiffon gown in a simple silhouette, like A-line, sheath, or empire waist. “Delicate lace details, a subtle open back, or a romantic off-the-shoulder neckline would add a touch of femininity,” she adds. To complement this look, opt for soft waves or a half-up hairstyle, and makeup that feels natural yet polished.

For the groom, a lightweight linen or cotton ensemble in a neutral hue suits outdoor, backyard, or beachside celebrations, while a classic black or navy suit fits evening events. Embrace soft fabrics and muted hues, steering clear of bold patterns or bright colors. Lastly, be sure to inform your guests of the dress code—“Beach Chic,” “Summer Elegance,” or “Cottagecore Cocktail”—to align with the breezy, effortless theme.

Nancy Meyers-Inspired Wedding Décor

Achieving a Nancy Meyers aesthetic with wedding décor involves creating a warm, inviting atmosphere—and this is best done by focusing on pieces that enhance the location’s natural beauty without overwhelming it. “Fill the space with warm lighting–think Edison bulbs strung overhead and twinkling candles on the tables," Willems suggests. You can then complement this lighting with fresh floral centerpieces featuring romantic blooms such as hydrangeas, roses, and peonies. “Try white florals with pops of color and greenery in a mixture of tall and short vases and the warm glow of candles covering the tables,” Johnson says. “Additional pops of color can come into play through linens and napkins.”

For the tables, draped linen tablecloths, mismatched china—a Nancy Meyers signature, Willems notes—vintage silverware, and crystal glassware all add romantic and modern touches. Finally, Johnson says setting up plenty of areas for guests to mingle, relax, and connect adds to the laid-back feel of the day. “Bring in lounge furniture sets with colorful, textured pillows and blankets at cocktail hour and throughout the seating at guest tables," she shares.

Nancy Meyers-Inspired Food and Drinks

While food and drink are central to any celebration, Willems suggests keeping it simple yet sophisticated when hosting this type of affair. Opt for fresh, seasonal dishes served family-style to capture that warm, Nancy Meyers vibe (this is also the perfect opportunity to feature a special, family recipe).

Alongside a signature cocktail, Johnson suggests setting up a bespoke drink station. This could offer a variety of customizations like unique garnishes or flavors, ensuring that the beverages are as memorable as the meal, further personalizing the experience. Don’t forget a colorful grazing table for cocktail hour, Johnson adds, to keep guests fed and serve as a conversation piece. 

Nancy Meyers-Inspired Wedding Entertainment

The entertainment at a Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding should set the tone from start to finish, and should include live music, Johnson urges. To be specific, Willems suggests an acoustic guitar or a string quartet to play softly for the procession, with lanterns scattered along the path to create a romantic glow as the sun sets. For the reception, a live band that can switch effortlessly between classic hits and modern favorites will keep the energy high and guests dancing all night. This mix of serene and spirited music ensures that the atmosphere is as enchanting as the setting. 

Additional Planning Tips for a Nancy Meyers-Worthy Wedding

When fine-tuning your Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding, consider gifting guests items that will leave a lasting impression. "Party favors like local artisanal gifts would be a thoughtful touch," Willems recommends, such as honey, wine, or olive oil that guests can use after the day is done. Photography is also crucial—choose a photographer who can capture the soft, romantic essence of Meyers' films. 

In all, the ultimate goal of your Nancy Meyers-inspired wedding should be a day that reflects your unique story and personal style, mirroring the charming, heartfelt essence of her films. From warm, inviting décor to thoughtful touches that cater to your guests' comfort, your wedding is an opportunity to create a day as timeless and romantic as the movies that have inspired it. Let each choice, from the venue to the vows, be a true celebration of your and your partner's journey together, leaving memories as enduring as those classic cinematic moments.